As an almost-40 year old, black gay man, I found this book as a form of self -paced therapy, helping me to understand a few of the questions/wonderings I’ve had about the ways I was evolving in the LGBTQIA+ community, and the subtle/micro-frustrations that would come up when engaged in small talk with hetero-folk. Though I found the book couldn’t really touch on moments specific to my/the black experience growing up as a gay man, there were SO many moments that still resonated due to the gay experience in general. As a friend who recommended this read to me said, “it’s definitely a book that all gay men should read.” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

How have I never heard of this book!? I found out about this book through an online comment section where the comment wrote “this book rewired my brain” and I cannot agree more.

I’ve never felt more seen in my entire life. This book opened my eyes to many of my behaviors and those of others. Highly recommend this book.

It’s like the author spoke from within, knew me since I was born. I cried from page 2. It’s a very healing experience, can’t recommend it enough to bring some light on our velvet chaos.

Got almost halfway through it and couldn’t finish it. This book is awful and repetitive.

This book has completely completely my life!! ❤️Every Gay man needs to read this literature

Thank you for sharing a set of skills to help us find fulfillment and contentment. Let this life-long journey begin.

Insightful shadow work

Highly recommended this book to everyone